關(guān)于成功勵(lì)志失敗時(shí)記得問(wèn)自己的5個(gè)問(wèn)題

Let’sfaceit.Weallfail.

人人都有失敗，不如坦然面對(duì)。

Aswegothroughlifewehaverelationshipsthatdon’tworkout,jobsthatjustaren’tright,examsthatweflunk,initiativesthatdon’tsucceed.Themorenewthingswetrythemorefailureswearelikelytohave.Infact,theonlywaytoavoidfailureistodonothingnew.

這一生，我們總會(huì)遇到糾纏不清的人際關(guān)系、不甚滿(mǎn)意的工作、未通過(guò)的考試，或者不曾實(shí)現(xiàn)的計(jì)劃。嘗試越多，挫折也越多。除非什么都不干，否則難免遭受打擊。

Theimportantthingishowwedealwithfailure.Itcanbepartofadownwardslideinwhichlackofconfidencereinforcesfeelingsofinadequacyandincompetence.Butexperiencingfailurecanbealearningexperienceandanopportunityforafreshstart.Agoodwaytobeginthisprocessisbyaskingyoruselfsometoughquestions.

關(guān)鍵是我們?nèi)绾蚊鎸?duì)失敗。人走下坡路，往往會(huì)自卑，感到無(wú)能為力。但失敗也是吸取教訓(xùn)、重新開(kāi)始的機(jī)會(huì)。要重新開(kāi)始，最好認(rèn)真思考下面幾個(gè)問(wèn)題。

1、WhatcanIlearnfromthis?

我從失敗中學(xué)到了什么？

Takeresponsibilityforwhatwentwrong.OK,soitwasnotallyourfault?butsomeofitwas.Successfulpeopledon’tmakeexcusesorblameothers.Theytakeownershipoftheissues.Becriticalbutconstructive.Trytolookattheexperienceobjectively.Makealistofthekeythingsthathappened.Analyzetheliststep-by-stepandlookforthelearningpoints.

為所犯的錯(cuò)承擔(dān)責(zé)任。的確，失敗并非完全你的錯(cuò)，但你也確實(shí)在責(zé)難逃吧。成功的人從來(lái)不為失敗找借口或抱怨他人，而是坦然承擔(dān)責(zé)任。所以，試著客觀看待挫折，列出清單，一步一步認(rèn)真總結(jié)才好。

2、WhatcouldIhavedonedifferently?

如果重來(lái)一次會(huì)不會(huì)有不同的處理方式？

Whatotheroptionsdidyouhave?Whatchoicesdidyoumake?Howcouldyouhavehandleditdifferently?Withthebenefitofhindsight,whatdifferentstepswouldyouhavetaken?

當(dāng)初是否還有其他途徑？可否換一種方式處理？后見(jiàn)之明或許能讓你發(fā)現(xiàn)原來(lái)還有別的方法解決問(wèn)題。

3、DoIneedtoacquireorimprovesomeskills?

我的能力是否亟待提高？

Didtheproblemrevealsomelackofskillonyourpart?Howcouldyoulearnorimprovethoseskills?Perhapstherearebooksorcoursesorpeopleyoucouldturnto.Makeaself-developmentplantoacquiretheskillsandexperiencesyouneed.

挫折是否也代表你能力不足呢？該怎樣彌補(bǔ)？或許，你可以讀書(shū)、上課或向人請(qǐng)教。制定計(jì)劃，努力提高自己的能力吧。

4、WhocanIlearnfrom?

我能向誰(shuí)學(xué)習(xí)？

Istheresomeonetowhomyoucanturntoforadvice?Didaboss,colleagueorafriendseewhathappened?Iftheyareconstructiveandsupportivethenaskthemforsomefeedbackandguidance.Mostpeopledonotaskforhelpbecausetheybelieveittobeasignofweaknessratherthanstrength.It’snot.Itshowsthatyouarereadytolearnandchange.Anygoodfriendwillbehappytohelp.

身邊有沒(méi)有可以求助的人？如果上司、同事或朋友能夠理解，你可以多征求他們的意見(jiàn)。（勵(lì)志）很多人都覺(jué)得求助意味著無(wú)能，真是大錯(cuò)特錯(cuò)。你開(kāi)口求助，表示你渴望學(xué)習(xí)和改變，朋友當(dāng)然會(huì)很樂(lè)意！

5、WhatwillIdonext?

接下來(lái)該怎么辦？

Nowdrawupanactionplan.Willyoutrysomethingsimilarorsomethingdifferent?Revisityourgoalsandobjectives.Thisreversalhasbeenasetbackonyourjourneybutthinkofitasapersionratherthanahalt.Youcannowresetyoursightsonyourdestinationandplananewcourse.

制定行動(dòng)方案。你想一如既往還是有所不同？好好審視自己的目標(biāo)吧。失敗并不意味著你要放棄，或許你只需換種方式而已。所以，你應(yīng)重新審視目標(biāo)，調(diào)整實(shí)施計(jì)劃。

Ifyoureadthelifestoriesofsuccessfulpeople?especiallyinventors,explorers,scientistsorstatesmen?youwillfindthattheirearlycareersarelitteredwithfailures.WaltDisney,ThomasEdisonandHenryFordaretypicalexamples.AbrahamLincoln,sufferedmanydefeatsinhiscareerinpoliticsincludinglosingthenominationforvicePsidentin1856andhissecondrunatbeingaU.S.Senatorin1858.TwoyearslaterhewaselectedPsident.

如果你常讀成功人士的故事??尤其是那些發(fā)明家、探險(xiǎn)家、科學(xué)家或政治家的，你會(huì)發(fā)現(xiàn)，很多人早年都處處碰壁。沃爾特?迪士尼、托馬斯?愛(ài)迪生以及亨利?福特都是很好的例子。再比如亞伯拉罕?林肯，政治生涯屢屢受挫：1856年，錯(cuò)失副總統(tǒng)提名；1858年，參議員競(jìng)選再度落榜；直到兩年后，他才成為美國(guó)總統(tǒng)。

Theimportantpointistouseyoursetbacksaslearningexperiencesandmakethemsteppingstonestofuturesuccess.Therearealwayspositivesyoucantakefromeveryepisodeinyourlife.Askingyourselfthesefivequestionscanhelpfindthem.

所以，你應(yīng)該把失敗看作吸取教訓(xùn)、走向成功的墊腳石。生命中的每段歷程，都有積極樂(lè)觀的一面。多問(wèn)問(wèn)自己這五個(gè)問(wèn)題，或許你就能茅塞頓開(kāi)。